The Missing Gene

I had a conversation with a friend this evening regarding relationships; she asked me, point blank, if I really wanted one; you see, I was previously complaining that it's been forever since I had one.
I answered, "Yes, I would really like a relationship." I'm not going to lie, she seemed a little surprised. That reaction got me to thinking that perhaps there is something in my DNA make up that makes people think that I'm not a relationship person. I'm not implying that I'm a "good time girl"; but just never seemed to carry a relationship very long or very seriously. Perhaps when I was in the womb it got left behind with the gene for killer abs?
I proceeded to prob my friend a little further to see why she thought I didn't want a relationship; she said it was the fact that I'm so independent, carefree, and spontaneous that she thought I would find a serious relationship restraining. Is that a relationship; one where you can no longer go off and do what you want, when you want? Are you no longer to able to jump in the car and go visit your best friend who lives 3 hours away because you miss them? According to my friend, you can't just buy that top you saw in the window for a hundred dollars; just because you felt you really, really deserved it.
I understand that being in a serious relationship that you do have to take in another persons feelings, opinions, and even compromise when it's appropriate; but if losing myself and bending to the will of someone else is what a relationship is all about; perhaps it's a good thing my "relationship gene" got left behind; is this how it is for everyone?
Would my Independence, spontaneous, carefree nature truly be restricted by having someone to love and share my adventures with?
I think I'll have to try it out to be certain; I'll keep you posted.

Until the next go round...

Walk On

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I don't know where you may be from; but in my corner of the World being outside and active is not a hobby; it's a way of life.
There is always one thing that I think about evertime I'm out for a walk in the local trails; "why is it we never treat each other as kindly as we do when we are on a trail?"
Perhaps you have thought this as well; when you are out enjoying the trees, birds song, and possible breeze; you inevitably pass people who are doing the same, you smile and even say, "Hello".
Now, if you were to move not even 30 minutes away and you passed that same person on the street, downtown, in the city; we barely; if at all, acknowledge that there is someone else there.
It's weird right? It's not just me, when it's pointed out like this, is it weird?
If it is just me, that's ok, I will stand alone and wonder why trail coutesy doesn't transfer to city courtesy; are we not the same people in the city than on the trail?
I wonder if it's because while we are in the city we are so self absorbed, in a rush,and just got tunnel vision on getting from point A to point B; that until we set foot on the dirt, allow ourselves to breath, slow down and really look around do we start to see people as people again, instead of obsticles to get by to get on our way because we are very busy and important people who can't be bothered with smiling or saying Hello to another person.
Since having this epiphany, I've started to try to transfer "Trail Courtesy" to the city and I strongly encourage you to do the same. Perhaps the atmosphere of ease, joy and happiness that we feel on the trail will too transfer to the city.
It never hurts to try.

Until the next go round...